why do moms fail at breastfeeding?

30 Sep
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Breastmilk is best for the baby but breastfeeding is definitely a learned art.  One of the MOST important rule for a successful breastfeeding relationship is to make sure the baby has a GOOD LATCH.

If the baby latches on incorrectly, you will have sore, crack, or bleeding nipples and that hurts like crazy…. and you will be afraid of the pain every time you go to latch the baby on. You can treat sore nipples aloe vera just apply on the nipple after feeding. For crack nipple you can use calendula gel or cream to heal the nipple. Calendula is great because it will heal the nipple quickly so you won’t really need to resort to getting antibiotic cream to prevent infection. You can use a natural nipple butter such as motherlove nipple butter or earth mama nipple butter to soothe and heal the nipples.

Another rule to remember if it hurts badly when you latch the baby on, baby is not latching correctly. You should only feel a little discomfort at first when the baby latches on not severe pain. The nipples will be naturally sore once the baby start nursing because they are sensitive and not use to the constant sucking but should not be painful.

What is a good latch?  Baby’s mouth should be on the areola and NOT the nipple. Tickle the baby’s upper lips so he open wide and then put the breast into his mouth. Some midwives advocate letting the baby root and find the breast for themselves. I could spend the day trying to tell you how to do it correctly but a picture or video is better. Please check out www.drjacknewman.com  He is an expert in breastfeeding and has tons of videos and photo on breastfeeding as well as breastfeeding issues of every kind.   This website also has excellent resources on breastfeeding www.kellymom.com  If all fails, before you go to the Dr, please see a lactation specialist, who can show you how to latch correctly, help you with engorgement ete. Most dr unless they breastfed or their wives did, are totally clueless about breastfeeding as it is not taught to them in school. They will likely tell you to use formula. Please don’t ever let a dr tell you to use formula because your baby is allergic to your milk. Babies are not allergic to their mom’s milk but rather what the mom ate. Some food that bother babies are diary, soy,wheat.

Tongue Tied babies will have problems latching on correctly and will have problems gaining weight. You can or have a professional lactation specialist check to see if the baby tongue tied. Tongue tied babies can have their frenulum clipped which will allow them to be able to stick their to tongue out and latch correctly.

Support from your spouse is also vital to a good breastfeeding relationship. There is nothing worst than a mom having problems nursing and a husband nagging her to quit, bottle feed or asking her when are you going to stop nursing for older babies. In laws as well as parents can also be a source of frustration if they are  not use to nursing. Get your spouse on board. My hubby actually latches the baby on for me because I was having so much problem until I got it right.  Find breastfeeding support groups or go the La leche  group meetings.

Establishing a good milk supply is important especially in the first 3 weeks. Some moms produce a lot some moms don’t but, we still can all feed our babies. Breastmilk will increase the more you nurse… so scheduling feeds are not good for building milk supply instead nurse when the baby is hungry. Pedatricians are known for telling moms that they need to supplement the milk. Breastfed babies growth chart are different from formula fed babies so be sure to check before supplementing.

Another problem too is we are told to breastfeed for at least 6 months so when moms nurse longer than six months, people give you the look. I nurse mine daughter until 23 months and that was because I was 4 months pregnant and getting too exhausted. When my daughter got to 6 months and I looked at her there was no ways I could give her just food and there was no way i was going to give her cow’s milk when her mother had her own milk. She was still a little baby and needed good nourishment. My daughter refuse food until she was 13 months and then she did not look back.

Here is a list of website on  breastfeeding.  www.kellymom.comwww.drjacknewman.comhttp://www.llli.org/WebUS.html and don’t forget mom’s support groups example www.mothering.com  or yahoo support groups in your state. Mothering magazine had a great article on mastitis just in case you need help(it may be archived on mothering .com)


3 Responses to “why do moms fail at breastfeeding?”

  1. BloggerDude October 9, 2009 at 4:09 am #

    I don’t know If I said it already but …Excellent site, keep up the good work. I read a lot of blogs on a daily basis and for the most part, people lack substance but, I just wanted to make a quick comment to say I’m glad I found your blog. Thanks, 🙂

    A definite great read….

  2. Jessica Higgins October 4, 2011 at 12:01 pm #

    What a great article! Breastfeeding truly is an ART and as with every art there is a learning curve!

    • naturalpureessentials October 8, 2011 at 6:51 pm #

      Thanks Jessica, I had a such a hard getting my little one to latch correctly but thanks to our lactation specialist we were able to continue nursing until 2 yrs old.

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